Kink-Positive Spotlight on Jay

Kink-Positive Spotlight on… Jay from tesstesst.nl

Hi there! Thanks for chatting {errr, writing with us…} today. The goal of this segment is to speak with kinky individuals and give them a chance to show us what real kink is all about.

So, who are you?

 

I’m Jay, thirtysomething almost forty pansexual man, happily married in an open marriage to a wonderful wife who is also a kinkster. Proud dad of a son and a GF/TG daugh…erh son.

What do you do?

In my “vanilla” life I teach English, in my not so vanilla life I am currently coaching and teaching on sexual freedom and kink.

What brought you into the kink community?

An urge and an e-mail. I was always very deviant when it came to my sexual preferences, a kinkminded e-mail list (this was in 1999 mind you) educated me and brought me on-line friends. Who later turned into real life friends. And through them I was introduced into the wonderful world of kink.

What (kink- / gender) roles do you identify with?

I am Dominant, that is the “stable” part about me. I am a sadist, but also a Daddy, basically a jack of all trades and Master of most

What would you say is the moment in your kinklife / the role you identify with that sticks with you most?

I have had many very memorable encounters. But my first kinky meeting/party, finally finding out that I wasn’t a weird man with a preference for Dominating people and finally feeling at home does stick to mind.

What are some kinks or fetishes that you have not experienced but want to?

I think I have pretty much been there and done that, but I find you can always find a new kink or fetish to explore. That is the great thing about playing with other kinksters and talking to them, there is always something new to discover.

Tell us about the first memory of doing something kinky?

Tying my girlfriend up with the sash of her bathrobe when I was 19 and having sex with her like that, the sheer thrill of being in control.

Are you working on any projects you can tell us about?

As I said earlier I am starting out as a kink(minded)coach and want to educate the world about kink and BDSM. I am very sex positive, aside from this me and my wife Tess review sex toys (in Dutch) which we publish on our website https://www.tesstesst.nl

Where can we find you?

TessTesst Sex Toy Reviews

Fuck Yeah I’ll Test It – Jay’s Journey (my personal blog)

 

 

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We are a small grass roots sex blog and our mission is to sexually empower all humans, no matter their gender, race, orientation, religion, or walk of life. We are a community of open-minded, open-hearted, sexual beings who are working hard to make a positive impact in this body and sex shaming society.

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