Kink-Positive Spotlight on Dick Wound

Kink-Positive Spotlight on Dick Wound

Hi there! Thanks for chatting {errr, writing with us…} today. The goal of this segment is to speak with kinky individuals and give them a chance to show us what real kink is all about.

So, who are you?

I really wanted to answer this with “I’m Batman” but then I realized I already have a real alter ego.  So, I’m Dick Wound… and no, I won’t reveal my secret identity.

What do you do?

Produce, engineer, and co-host Off the Cuffs: a Kink and BDSM podcast.  We take on topics of human sexuality, focusing on the “non-traditional” side of sex.  As a person who has been kinky most of my life, but only becoming part of the community more recently, it started off as me wanting to document my journey.  Through sharing stories with other people in the kink community, it has become a resource for people all over the world, both trying to find their way into the community, and people that are happy keeping kink in the bedroom.  I never thought the show would be what it’s become.  We have gotten thousands of emails from people, thanking us for making them feel like they are not alone.  

What brought you into the kink community?

I was kinky as far back as I can remember in my life, and have been actively kinky with partners since my mid teens.  In my thirties, I fell in love and married a non-kink person, and over time she asked more and more questions about the things I was into.  I’d explored kink with semi-like-minded people in the past, and ruined “vanilla” relationships by even admitting to some of the things I liked in the past.  So not having the language to express everything to a person, not in the know, I suggested we meet more people that do this.  We signed up for fetlife, went to a munch, and the rest is history. Not only has my wife has found her own kinks, but they are completely independent of mine.  She’s not just “doing it for me” so to speak.

What (kink- / gender) roles do you identify with?

I have so much trouble answering this question, and with how often I’m asked it, you’d think I’d have a better way to relay it to you.  The nutshell version is I’d have to say I’m a Sadomasochist.  As a Top I love inflicting pain and fear, as well as humiliation and degradation on consenting partners.  I enjoy roleplaying as a serial killer, a mad scientist, or a henchman.  As a bottom, I enjoy being given pain, made to endure pain, having my desires used against me in sadistic ways.  For example, being locked in a spiked chastity cage and teased until my dick gets cut to shreds.  Hence the name “Dick Wound.”  I like to roleplay the Dude in Distress, and my biggest fantasy is about being murdered.  

Gender is something I have tenuous ties to as far as my identity.  I’m just me.  On paper and because I was raised in a time and society that pushed bi-gender heteronormativity, I suppose I identify as a straight cisgendered male.  That said, I don’t feel I have to represent manhood or do/not do things based on how I was born.  I think it’s important to not attach pride to something that doesn’t take me any courage to admit.


What would you say is the moment in your kinklife / the role you identify with that sticks with you most?

When I was sixteen, a girl cut off my clothes and did a thing to me with the knife while we had sex.  Discovering that there were other people that wanted to do things like this and that a person wanted to do them with me, was huge.  If she hadn’t done that, I may have just silently though I was a weirdo my whole life.

What are some kinks or fetishes that you have not experienced but want to?

Honestly, I tend to do most of the things I want to do, although sounding is still on my Fuck-It List.  I’m just waiting for the right partner to give my urethral virginity to, hahaha.  

Tell us about the first memory of doing something kinky?

I often talk about my Radioactive Spider Bite into kink being something I saw on TV as a child or the first kink thing that was done to me (see knife story above).  I’d have to say the earliest memory of doing something kinky, was figuring out a way to tie my feet, and one hand to my bed, so I could pretend I was on a medieval rack while jerking off to the thought of being tortured (with my free hand).

Are you working on any projects you can tell us about?

Putting together a “Traveling Munch” to reach people that don’t want to go to a munch alone for the first time.  People feel they know max (yep, that’s lower case for a reason), my co-host, and I, and have expressed how they wish they could come to the munch in our city to make the first step easier.  So I want to bring us to them.  
I’ve also been kicking around the idea of writing about how I used kink to get over the fear of death, almost nearly dying.  I’d like to teach more classes as well.  I have done a class on knife play, and have plans of doing that again in the future, as well as some other topics.

Where can we find you?

Off the Cuffs is on Twitter Instagram @ocpkink

You can listen to my show through most podcast players by searching Off the Cuffs: a kink and BDSM podcast, or here are a few links to the most popular ones.

  • iTunes – https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/off-the-cuffs-a-kink-and-bdsm-podcast/id1109249666?mt=2
  • Google Play – https://play.google.com/music/m/Inesx6rfnia7wjhb3m5y4ahtq2i?t=Off_the_Cuffs_a_kink_and_BDSM_podcast
  • On Podcast Addict and Various Android Apps – http://subscribeonandroid.com/feeds.feedburner.com/OffTheCuffsPodcast
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We are a small grass roots sex blog and our mission is to sexually empower all humans, no matter their gender, race, orientation, religion, or walk of life. We are a community of open-minded, open-hearted, sexual beings who are working hard to make a positive impact in this body and sex shaming society.

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